…ormally incredibly assertive in the face of macroaggressions, but her words had rendered me silent. She intended to make me feel small, and she succeeded. Further, she called on a trope I have faced for much of my life, one that is traumatizing and diffi…
This and all of the remaining observations are a pattern of behavior you have observed in white people around you. Now consider all of that in the context of mental illness.
Could it be possible that people must have a mental illness to have a need to minimize, marginalize, and even insult other people on the basis of race? I offer this not as a defense of them, but as a way to reframe the narrative.
Your article, like many others, is proof positive to me that racism is a mental illness and should be treated as such.
People who behave as you have observed, learned that from someone, usually parents, caregivers, mentors, etc. In the case of the mental illness of racism, it’s hereditary, it’s passed down from one generation to the next.
I write this comment as a middle aged white man. I have pondered the causes of hatred and ostracism for a long time, having been teased incessantly in school for my disabilities. So I know a tiny sliver of your pain, but cannot imagine the full breadth of it.
I offer this comment to you so that you may take additional solace in knowing that these people lack the skills to do better. Forgive them, for they know not what they do. Not for them, but for you.