Set Theory — what you want may not be what you know

From time to time, a friend will consult me with their troubles. The conversation will go something like this:

Me: How are you doing?
Them: Oh, not too bad.
Me: I guess that’s better than bad.

So they tell me the source of their pain, with all the gory details and then they run out of stuff to say. They don’t know what to do. They’re not getting what they want.

That’s what I hear when someone shares their pain with me. I’ve been through this many times myself and have developed different…