A Mental Tool For Reserving Judgment: Set Theory

What you want may not be what you know.

From time to time, a friend will consult me with their troubles. They tell me the source of their pain, with all the gory details, and then they run out of stuff to say. They don’t know what to do. They’re not getting what they want.

That’s what I hear when someone shares their pain with me. I’ve been through this many times myself and have developed different ways of thinking about the problem of not getting what I want. After much introspection and…