There are some people who believe that the opposite of love is hate. I used to believe this, too. I used to believe that thinking about someone, hating them, and wishing they would change somehow, is just desserts for being somehow, awful. My anger then, was an inability to accept the other person as they truly are. My hate was an obsession, and obsession is just another fancy term for addiction. Hate is an addiction.

I have had people tell me to my face that they hate me. I know what that feels like, but looking back, I now see…

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The purpose of attaining and asserting dominance in any realm, is to avoid accountability.

In the past month, I read a few very interesting articles on what appears to be an aristocracy in America. First, there is “The 9.9 Percent Is the New American Aristocracy”, a long, thorough accounting of how a wealthy aristocracy came to be in modern-day America. An aristocracy that is thriving today.

Then there is this article, “Land of the Lawless: How power in America has turned the rule of law into a mere myth”, by Ralph Nader, a man who ran for president a few times, and who has detailed numerous examples of corruption in America. …

This one is mine.

How an open mind can clear the way for gratitude.

I just finished watching the HBO documentary, “The Bee Gees — How Can You Mend A Broken Heart”. I enjoyed the entire documentary. I especially liked learning that their falsetto singing style was improvised and adopted later in their career in pursuit of a new sound. I also learned that the Bee Gees wrote many songs for other artists, too.

I took note of the following statement in the beginning by Barry Gibb, the last remaining brother:

“I am beginning to recognize the fact that Nothing is true. Nothing. It all comes down to perception.”

I was surprised that someone…

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Unassailable power is an undesirable outcome for any party.

Since Joe Biden took office, there has been a constant barrage of talk about “bipartisanship”. Progressives clamor for the end of the filibuster. Every weekday morning, the moderates and conservatives sit in a circle in the Capitol rotunda, chanting “save the rentier class”. It’s almost as if the tension is intentional.

The fight over who will hold power and how much has always been a feature of our democracy. But what I find so interesting about Republican calls for bipartisanship at the federal level is what is happening at the state level, and it ain’t bipartisanship. At the state level…

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The second question in the California recall election was left blank or had write-ins by enough voters to almost tie with Larry Elder.

Unofficial results indicate that Gavin Newsom easily won the recall vote on Tuesday with 63% of Californians voting NO on the question of whether or not he should be removed from office. Larry Elder won 47% of the vote for the second question. But a difficult-to-find statistic was the number of votes left blank or written in by voters.

According to Cal Matters, 63% of the voters said no to the first question of recall, and that 47% of the votes for an alternative candidate were for Larry Elder. …

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He poses a question of effort for the poor, but not for the rich.

In a recent appearance on CNN’s The State Of The Union, Senator Joe Manchin (D-WV) was pressed on the question of whether or not to make the new Child Tax Credit permanent. A video of that interview was posted on YouTube and here is what Manchin had to say:

“I support child tax credits. I sure am trying to help the children. You want to help the children and the parents that are basically providing for those children. There’s no work requirements whatsoever. There’s no education requirements whatsoever for better skill sets. …

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A hail mary negotiating tactic.

I see in the Republican Party, not just of Texas, but of most of the country, a quiet determination. A slow understanding that the present trajectory of demographic trends does not support a Republican majority for very long. The extreme measures included in the Texas Heartbeat Law might suggest a no-compromise attitude, but if you’re negotiating for something you want, you start somewhere much higher than what you want, to get what you want.

The question is what do they want? The Heartbeat Law is designed to flout every safeguard that our Constitution protects against. It is designed to be…

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An interesting turn in the debate over family planning.

I live in the state of Utah. It wasn’t my first choice when I moved here from California, but it turned out to be a good choice. Utah has a reputation as a family state. They put a lot of public and private effort into supporting families. There are lots of family-friendly places to go. The houses are big. There is room to grow.

I’ve been following the debate over family planning rather closely. The Texas Heartbeat Law got my attention and I was feeling rather pessimistic about it. I noticed how punitive that law was. I noticed how confrontational…

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Our best science is a firm foundation for contentment.

I am presently in recovery from surgery a few days ago. It was a minor outpatient surgery to remove a splotch of basal cell carcinoma on the back of my neck. Now I’ve never actually seen that bit of cancer, the wound on the back of my neck. I haven’t directly observed the sutures that were made by a skilled doctor after removing cancer from the back of my neck, either.

All I’ve got are pictures and memories of the procedure. That is what we might call, “proof”. And yet I still have reason to doubt all of it. …

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How our expectations affect our experience of reality.

For the past 15 years or so, I’ve been on a long, weird trip about reality. I’ve changed from pessimist to optimist during that time. I’ve learned how to consider other factors beyond my external circumstances to find happiness. That’s what a stoic does.

This isn’t to say that I’m completely aloof. It’s just that I’ve found it possible to get what I want and still make a decision to be unhappy. So I’ve made a point to err in the other direction, to decide to be happy with what I have.

My journey started in 12-step meetings where I…


Husband, father, worker, philosopher, and observer. Plumbing the depths of consciousness to find the spring of happiness. Write on.

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